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The Party's Over

Charles Manson, a serial murderer, was considered "the ultimate victim of society." He wrote songs, played guitar, and never achieved the success he believed he "deserved." He grew bitter and rallied a group of young followers to commit horrendous acts of murder.

Good news! Most of us won't become serial killers, but we can become serial whiners.

Who hasn't thrown themselves a pity party? Self-pity is excessive personal absorption over one's own troubles. The enemy of our soul lures us down the "woe is me" road, and we feel entitled to stew in our sorrows.

We fixate on our pain, disappointment, and injustice only to lose sight of the goodness of God. The media and advertisers remind us every day about what we don't have, and how we "deserve" a better life. We look around and compare our bodies, marriages, homes, and careers. If we look long enough our neighbor’s kids are even cuter than ours.

The profound truth acknowledges the fact that life is not fair. Sin made sure of that. We can't always choose what happens to us, but we always get to choose how we handle every situation. Declare today that the party's over!

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Leadership Challenge: Start a gratitude journal. It will help keep your eyes on the right things.

Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. 1 Thessalonians 5:18 NIV


Crystal Van Kempen-McClanahan, is one- half of the podcast Soul Gym Sisters, and co-author of Mind Moxie: How to Help You Master What's Mastering You. She spent over 20 years as an educator, a softball/volleyball coach, and school leader.  She has a doctorate in Educational Leadership and received the John Maxwell Leadership Award in Education.  Because leadership is "influence," Crystal is passionate about helping people increase their "influential capacity" by leading their life, loving their life, and lavishing it on others. Check out her YouTube channel and online course "5 Steps to Go from Flabby to Fit Without Stepping Foot in the Gym."

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